During one of the numerous seminars I gave on singles, a woman asked an unusual question. “How do I know I am in the right relationship and with the right person?” These same questions have been asked by so various people around the world. In fact it happens to be a vital question for any individual in a relationship. Now here’s the answer. Every relationship follows a cycle. It begins with falling in love and this follows with the other anxieties surrounding falling in love. Now this first part is very easy because it was a complete natural experience. Little or no work was required, it was a spontaneous experience that is why it is referred falling in love because it is easy and it is a passive and spontaneous experience.
The second part comes a few years into the relationship. The euphoria of love fades, the anxiety dies down, the spark disappears, the exciting that engulfs you is no longer there, the phone calls slowly becomes scarce or a bother, (if the come at all) and your partner’s idiosyncrasies drive you nuts. At this stage you begin to ask yourself questions like, is this the right person for me? Your mind becomes clouded, you long for yesteryears, you long to see in your partner what you once saw and hope to feel again what you once felt. As such questions linger through your mind, you begin to reflect on the euphoria of love you once had and in hope of reigniting such feeling you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. Such symptoms at this stage vary with relationships and it is at this stage that relationships breakdown. Partners blame each other for the present situation and their unhappiness and in a bid to recover or hold up themselves, they look outside for fulfillment and embrace other attractions. These attractions maybe another affair, alcohol, a friendship, a hobby, excessive TV or too much work. They try their best to get themselves engrossed ion any of these to make up for their loss and feeling and to help them overcome the dilemma.
Now funny as it may seem the answer to this problem does not lie outside of it but within it. The key to a successful relationship is not finding the right person but learning to love the one you have found. You should know that you cannot find lasting love. You have to make it day and night, day in and day out. It takes time, effort, energy and hard work. Above all it requires wisdom. A sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience like falling in love. The success of your relationship lies within you, you have to know what to do to make it work and keep it alive. You should know that love is not a mystery. There are things you can do to make your love keep growing and also make your relationship a success. There are laws and powers binding the universe and everything in it. There are physical laws and spiritual powers. So also there are laws for relationships. As just taking in the right diet and doing the right exercise makes you stronger, also doing the right things and acquiring certain habits in your relationship will make it stronger. You can make love continuous. If you know and diligently apply these laws and use these powers the results are predictable. You will find out that love is indeed a decision and not just a feeling.
Two great powers you can apply in your relationship are the powers of belief or faith and the powers of focus. This is so because in applying the power of belief or faith your subconscious mind only creates your reality based on your faith or belief. It doesn’t care if your faith or belief about the person is good, bad, ugly or beautiful. It only acts on instructions which come form your thoughts. Your thought send vibrations that make you focus and following the laws of attraction you consequently attract to yourself whatever you give your focus, attention or energy to. So try to create a firm positive belief and faith about your relationship and let the thought about your relationships be very positive and focus on it. Changes are sure to happen.
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